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No, this isn't a mail ordered bride, it's my niece and her husband on their wedding day last month. It's just such a fun picture I had to share it. Now, on to my post:
Nowhere else in the world can lay
claim to the old west. Other countries had their wild, rowdy, or scandalous
times, but only America had the land west of the Mississippi—that vast,
unclaimed land that held promises of change, beauty, wonder, and riches—and gave
birth to mail order brides.
Men set west in droves, and even
those that didn’t ‘strike it rich’ in the gold fields, succeeded in other ways
such as ranching, farming, and building communities, but many soon discovered
one thing was missing. Women. Someone they could share their new-found lives
with. Since men outnumbered women nine to one in most western territories, men
started writing ‘back east’. Some would ask family members to find a suitable
partner and send them west. Others wrote to churches and/or put ads in
newspapers and magazines.
Women were excited about the
opportunity. Between the civil war and the westward movement, the ratio between
men and women in the east was extremely disproportional. There were very few
career options for women, and poverty was on the rise. Even to those with financial
support, becoming a mail order bride carried lest social stigma than becoming a
spinster.
There were newspapers and
magazines dedicated to connecting men and women, and marriage brokers opened
Mail Order Bride Agencies on both sides of the Mississippi, proclaiming what
many already knew, that without women towns wouldn’t become ‘civilized’ or flourish.
The couples would usually share a
few letters, possibly a photo if either had the means to provide one, and eventually
would come to the ultimate decision to marry or not. Some ‘brokers’ actually
performed proxy marriages between the couple to assure neither party changed
their minds upon meeting. The divorce rates of mail ordered brides were very
low, and many marriages proved loving and long lasting.
I’ve always loved mail order
bride’s tales, and my next release with Harlequin, Unclaimed Bride, is such a story:
Running from the past…she bumps
into her future!
Mail-order bride Constance
Jennings steps off the stage in Cottonwood, Wyoming, and waits for her
husband-to-be. But he never shows up, and instead several other men are vying
to take his place!
Single father Ellis Clayton must
be the only man in town not looking for a bride. But his young
daughter's habit of rescuing wounded critters means he ends up offering
Constance a temporary shelter.
Having a woman around the house
again is all too easy—especially seeing her bond with his daughter—but Ellis
can't seem to let go of the past. Problem is, neither can Constance. And hers
is about to catch up with her….
What about you? If
you’d lived back then, would you have left all you’d ever known behind and headed
west on little more than a promise of marriage?
7 comments:
Hi Lauri,
I have never had the pleasure of reading any of your books but that will change. I am going to add this one to my TBR pile. I love books about mail order brides!! I would like to think that if I lived back then that I would have been a mail order bride. The adventure and hope of finding love definitely would have appealed to me. LOL :) Have a great day!!
Hi Lauri,
I haven't read all of your books but I have read A Wife for Big John and loved it! I love mail order bride stories but in reality I'm not sure if I would have been brave enough to commit myself to a practical stranger. I photo would have been a must.
Thanks, Mariann! I applaud you! I don't know if I could have done it!
Thanks! I'm with you, but even after a picture, I don't know that I could have done it.
Hi Lauri, I don't know if I could have gone out to marry someone I hadn't met. If they offered to see if we were a match, then I would probably have done it, but to just ride out, marry whatever was on the end of the trip...I guess I'm too picky! Great post!
Lauri,no way! I'd be scared stiff of what awaited at the end of the long, exhausting trip to meet him. Thanks for sharing!
Lauri, I love mail-order bride stories and look forward to reading yours! As for leaving everyone and everything I knew and heading west to marry a man sight unseen, that is one scary proposition. Not sure if I would have the gumption. But then that's one thing that writers often forget about the settlers--they did have gumption, or we wouldn't have anything to write about today. :)
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