A few days ago, I touched on courting and marriage, specifically the presence of plural wives in the tribes of the old west. The main reason for having more than one was often dictated by the number of men killed during battle or buffalo hunts, and the honor of relatives to take on the families left behind. If one brave had only one wife and his brother was killed, leaving behind two, then it wasn't uncommon for that man to become the husband to three. Quite often, a singular wife might suggest her spouse marry again to ease her workload while giving her a senior status in the household. Little is written about the sexual habits in the research books I've used, but I always wonder how accurate our romantic notions are in the novels we create about the American Indian tribes. Thankfully, we write fiction and can enhance what we don't know to be certain.
Although those men who dressed as women were given respect in some ways, male warriors were instructed that even though a 'winkte' lived and worked as a woman, to engage in sexual relations with one was cause for retribution after death. The belief was in the land beyond, the warrior would not be allowed to live in the main circle, but away from the rest where the 'winktes' would torture him. I suppose it worked as the Sioux held the 'beyond' in the greatest reverence.
There appears to be no documentation of obvious lesbaniasm among the female tribal members. This may be attributed to the 'dream' instructions given to young women that warned of avoiding perversion. Obviously, fear played an important role in instilling the goal of wife and mother, as no record exists of old maids among the Sioux. I found it very interesting that men were given greater acceptance of their differences while women were more restricted and basically 'scared straight.'
I hope you're enjoying this series of information about the Sioux. It used to be research for me, now it's become a passion. Back soon.